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What I Wish I Knew When I Started Nannying: Lessons from the Journey
Starting a career in nannying can be both exciting and overwhelming. Whether you’re stepping into the role fresh out of school or transitioning from another field, there’s much to learn beyond just “watching the kids.” Reflecting on my journey, here are the key things I wish I had known when I started nannying—insights that might help you navigate your path more confidently and clearly.
1. Boundaries Are Essential
When I first started, I wanted to impress every family I worked for. I said “yes” to every request and worked overtime without setting clear boundaries. Over time, I realized this led to burnout and blurred professional lines. What I learned:
Set clear expectations about hours, duties, and availability from the start. I start at the interview stage.
Communicate respectfully but firmly if you feel your role expands beyond what was agreed upon. Make sure you schedule a time to chat about the issues and present some potential solutions.
2. Professionalism Goes a Long Way
Nannying is a profession, and treating it as such is crucial. When I started many years ago, I underestimated the importance of detailed contracts. I used to use the contract the agency provided ( this was many years ago in Europe). Our industry has moved on since. Families appreciate nannies who approach their role seriously.
Always have a written agreement to protect both parties. Make sure you include everything important to you in your contract. There are many free and paid-for contracts out there. You may find they suit you to a T, or you may want to tweak them to suit your needs. A lawyer must review it to ensure it is legally binding and enforceable.
Dress appropriately for interviews and show up prepared, just like you would for any job in a corporate setting.
Be prepared for the role you are accepting. If you are working with babies, read up about their routines, such as sleep patterns, weaning, and activities you can undertake with them. Are you up to date on the various childcare philosophies out there?
3. Every Family Is Different
No two families are the same. Each has its own parenting style, values, and expectations. I’ve worked with families who preferred strict schedules and others who thrived on spontaneity. Early on, I often tried to adapt my way of doing things without fully understanding the family dynamic.
Take time to observe and learn each family’s rhythm. Observations are so important. We had to do hundreds of observations when I was training as an NNEB. Everyone hated them, but I can tell you they taught me so much. I always recommend that my nanny clients observe carefully during trials and interviews.
Ask questions about their parenting philosophy and tailor your approach accordingly.
4. You’re More Than “Just a Nanny”
When I started, I didn’t fully realize how deeply I’d impact the lives of the children and families I worked with—or how much they’d impact mine. Nannying is more than childcare; it’s about being a role model, a confidant, and sometimes a lifeline for overwhelmed parents and children.
Take pride in your work and remember your positive influence on young lives.
Recognize the importance of your role, even if society doesn’t always celebrate it.
5. Communication Skills Are Everything
Communicating effectively with parents is just as important as connecting with the children. I started Nannying at 19; I knew everything about childcare and children and was trained and qualified. However, I struggled with providing feedback or addressing issues. Looking back, I think this should be taught as part of any nannying course.
Schedule regular check-ins with parents to discuss the children’s progress and address concerns.
Practice open and honest communication—it builds trust and prevents misunderstandings.
6. It’s Okay to Ask for Help
When I started, I felt I had to figure everything out on my own. Whether it was dealing with a picky eater, navigating tantrums, or struggling with how to speak with a parent, I sometimes struggled in silence.
Contact fellow nannies, join online forums, or connect with professional organizations for advice and support.
Continuing education, such as first aid training or parenting workshops, can boost your confidence and skill set.
7. Prioritize Self-Care
Caring for others is demanding work, both physically and emotionally. Initially, I often neglected my needs, thinking it was part of being a “dedicated” nanny.
Schedule time for yourself to recharge.
Develop hobbies and maintain a support network outside of work.
8. Growth Opportunities Are Everywhere
I never thought nannying had limited career advancement, but I know society does! Take the opportunities to specialize in newborn care, special needs support, parent coaching, sleep, potty training, and even travel nannying, including yacht nannying.
Invest in certifications and trainings.
Build skills that can open doors to high-profile or unique roles.
Final Thoughts: What I Wish I Knew When I Started Nannying: Lessons from the Journey
Nannying is a journey of growth, learning, and meaningful connections. While there’s no manual to prepare you for every challenge, embracing these lessons can help you navigate the ups and downs more easily.
If you’re a new nanny or considering this career, remember that you’re stepping into a role that can profoundly shape lives—including your own.
If you’re already a nanny, what lessons did you wish you’d learned earlier? Let’s share and grow together!
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